By Deacon Gray: In every relationship there is a process, a time period when we learn about each other and what the expectations both parties hold for the relationship. The process for Vampires and Donors is no different then any other relationship, yet there are some questions and issues that should be discussed between the vampire and donor that are a little more complex.
The intent of this essay is not to tell you how to regulate or order your relationship. The point is to present to you a guide. This guide is basically a series of concepts, suggestions, and questions that could be used to help ensure that both parties are fully informed, kept safe, understand the expectations of each other, and the requirements and limitations that each side holds to be imperative to a successful relationship even in the short term. It’s a negotiation guide if you will.
Part one: Meeting for the Negotiation (new contact)
Set an established date, time and public place for meeting
Ensure meeting place will be appropriate and consider secondary meeting place
Contact trusted friend and inform of meeting information
Take a friend if possible
Designate safe call
Ensure that meeting is not considered a “Date”, or “Going out” as not to set expectations. If a follow on time of getting to know each other is proposed ensure the above are considered
Designate if Alcohol is acceptable for meeting ( I suggest not to allow it)
Meeting for Negotiation (familiar contact)
Set date, time and place for meeting
Ensure the meeting place is comfortable for the subject topic.
Ensure that the meeting and reason for meeting is the only subject matter at hand as not to confuse the meetings intent.
Part Two: Medical aspects for consideration
Discuss Blood Born Pathogens and proper blood testing
Make information about proper testing available
Discuss Health issues:
Illness that could contribute to injury: anemia, Hemophilia, Diabetes ECT…
Talk about medications one might be taking like blood thinners
Consider any mental or emotional disorders, and the treatment utilized if any
Discuss any allergies one might possess that are pertinent like latex, Iodine or Shellfish.
(Note: It’s is important to be sure that you are made aware of any physical or mental issues that could result in harm to either party. Proper health screening and pathogen testing is highly recommended.)
Part Three: Discovery (Personal info that needs to be shared)
Have you ever been implicated in, wanted for, arrested for, or convicted of a crime
If yes what Crime and what was the circumstances
Is the person married
Is the spouse aware of the activities
Can the spouse be contacted
Is there anyone that can be asked about your reputation in the community
Part Four: Expectations
Is a purely Monogamous relationship expected
Is the relationship simply for donations
What behaviour is acceptable or not. (Like is it ok to have more then one donor, is it ok to have one donor and multiple lovers?
Will blood be stored
If stored is anyone else allowed to use it
What obligations are expected in the relationship?
What amount and how often are donations acceptable
Is there a mark or symbol of protection or responsibility
What information is considered confidential
Part Five: What Method to use
How will Psi feeding be conducted? (i.e.)
No physical contact
How is Blood Feeding to be conducted(i.e.)
Medical Blood Draw
How is Eros Type feeding to be conducted (sexual vampire) (i.e.)
1. Flirting only
2. Light physical contact no direct intercourse
3. Heavy physical contact no direct intercourse
4. Direct Intercourse
5. Passive observation
Part Six: I.C.E. and Aftercare
Who should be contacted In Case of Emergency (I.C.E)
What is the method of aftercare? (Is the person given a band aid and sent home? Are they bathed and massaged? Are they taken shopping or to a show…basically how do you ensure that after the donor has given you want you desire, that they are taken care of and looked after until they are home safely or in the hands of another, OR positive assurance can be given as to the over all well being.)
Part Seven: Final considerations
Where will the donation take place
Who will be there
What is the address (if unknown)
Who will know
When will it take place
The real goal of all of this is to ensure that both parties are protected and aware of exactly what is expected of them. With that in mind, happy hunting my friends.
Article by Deacon Gray, reposted with permission from Grave Yard Press.