The Vampyre’s Survival Guide – Nightside, Dayside, and Twilight

Digital VampyresThe internet. Facebook. These days the Vampyre Community is mostly online. We join groups and sites we find interesting, or which are a part of the online vampire community (or OVC). We sometimes think it would be nice to be open about what we are, even about stepping out of that coffin – until reality sets in, that is.

Some people find it disturbing when their friends  – or their friends – start posting things on their Facebook walls about Vampyres, blood, energy work, blood, magick, blood, and other vampiric matters. Oh, and did I mention blood? This is especially true when we consider members of the community who are living with relatives, or who have relatives keeping a close eye on their online activities.

I’m not just referring to underage people here – but anyone who might be unwise enough to participate in the OVC under their own name and expect there to not be unpleasant reactions or consequences. If you are underage, you have no business being on a site which deals with bloodletting and vampyrism in detail anyway.

As individual Vampyres or participants in the Vampyre Community, it is wise to wear a mask for each aspect of our lives. There are terms used in the VC to describe these different aspects.  Masks for each persona as it were. We call these masks Dayside and Nightside.

Dayside and Nightside divide a Vampyre’s life into two parts. ‘Dayside’  refers to a Vampyre’s Mundane identity. Dayside encapsulates work, Mundane friends and relatives, Mundane acquaintances and relations and all things which take place under your Mundane identity.

A Vampyre’s nightside self is the identity that is freely and openly vampyric. This can also be seen as a magickal identity, and those who participate in the Wiccan community will know what is meant by nightside.

When we speak of Twilight, people might think we refer to the rather lame representation of Vampyre-kind on the silver screen. Not so. Some Vampyres seek to integrate these two halves of their existence achieving a balance known as ‘Twilight’. Of course, I am sure Ms Meyer had to get the term somewhere, if not from the real Vampyre Community *wink*.

If you are being public about your involvement in the Vampyre Community in South Africa – well, then you’re very brave. Or you have no minors in your care, are self-employed, and probably own the place you live in. But if you would like to avoid the complications that come with being exposed, it is wise to keep a separate Facebook profile for your nightside identity. This is simple enough, and will help you to avoid complications brought about if your dayside friends had to see things on your profile that they shouldn’t  – and could cause problems for you.

Here’s a tip: create your nightside profile. Don’t use your own photo for a profile pic, don’t use your dayside name. Don’t provide your mobile phone number, place of work, or address. Use a nightside email, or create one to register with if you don’t have one. Gmail is free and easy. Don’t add dayside friends to your nightside profile, or nightside associates to your dayside profile.

This principle holds true not just for Facebook, but for any online activity where you interact as a member of the VC, and also in real life. Remember, there is no “twilight” in this regard.

Either your nightside and dayside are separate, or they aren’t. Either people know you are a Vampyre, or a Donor, or they do not. One post can expose you, and one careless act can allow people to connect your dayside and nightside – and others connected to you – and then the jig is up. And when it’s up, it’s up.

Your safety is a concern folks – there are crazies out there – even in this country. Please bear this in mind and don’t put vital information on your nightside profiles. Please heed this advice. Safe surfing. Safe socializing. Safe vampyrism.


About Octarine Valur

Octarine Valur - Founder: House Valur, South African Vampyre Community, South African Vampi(y)re Alliance (SAVA), SA Vampyre news (SAVN). View all posts by Octarine Valur

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